Category Archives: choices

The materialistic life

How many of us are materialistic?  I would probably guess most of us in some way are materialistic – I have managed to fill up half a closet with clothes in the year I have been back in Canada.  I have gone from owning about 6 outfits to what I consider a full wardrobe – with numerous pairs of running shoes and even a pair of heels.  This is not who I was in the past few years!!

 

As I was driving yesterday, along the Niagara Parkway (which I HIGHLY recommend to all to see – it is by far one of the prettiest areas in Ontario to see!), I was looking at the big houses along the waterfront.  I mean BIG – some would call them mansions.  They easily are worth millions of dollars.  And in my mind all I could think of is WHY would you want such a big house??  Do they have maids to clean?  What are their property taxes for such a place?   And of course, what I was also thinking was, do they realize how many trips they could have taken and made memories of instead of spending so much on a house??

 

I will never buy a house or property – and even when I look at my closet, I think I have too many clothes and need to give some away.  I really am amazed at how much my attitude has changed since I moved to Europe back in 2014.   I don’t want to be a materialistic person anymore – I know I was in my past and I honestly don’t like that about me.  I used to care about what I wore – name brands, etc., – but now I am happy to go to thrift shops and buy something that looks comfy.

 

My goal is to clear out some stuff by the beginning of 2019 and donate what I don’t need.

 

I am not knocking people who like to buy things to make themselves feel good – I just know that this is not the lifestyle I want.

 

So how about everyone else?  Do you have things you know you don’t need?

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I “have to” or I “get to”…

I read something very interesting today – it was a remark from someone on Facebook about how they changed their perspective simply by changing one word — “have” to “get”.  It seems so simple – but is it really?

Let’s consider this – I have to go to work today – sounds like something you would probably avoid if you had the chance.  Something daunting.  Unpleasant.

So let’s change the words.  I get to go to work today.  It sounds like it’s a great thing right?  It sounds like you are excited about doing it.  It’s something you are looking forward to doing.

And it was such a simple change — from a 4 letter word to a 3 letter word.  Have to Get.

I could think of my life in a negative way – I have to get up and run errands for my parents.  Sounds negative.  BUT if I change it to – I get to get up and run errands for my parents!  At least to me, it sounds like a pleasant thing to do.

Let’s take it a bit further — I have to blog tonight because it’s been so long since I have. (and yes I did actually think that this morning).  I changed it later today to – I get to blog tonight because I have a night off and can really think about it!  I got excited by simply saying it that way.

It’s amazing that by changing that one word, how much better my day turned out.  I changed the word with many things today (not just about blogging!) and it definitely turned my attitude around.

Try it – you may be surprised at how easy it is!

53 and counting…

For the past few years, I have spent my birthday away from Welland.  From 2012 to 2014, I was in Calgary.  In 2015, I turned 50 in Prague.  51 was Berlin and 52 was in China.  My 53rd birthday has me back in Ontario for the first time since 2011.  It’s been great being back here for my birthday – spent the day shopping and out for lunch yesterday in Fort Erie, and today was spent in Niagara Falls (breakfast and gambling – sad to say I didn’t win big but I also didn’t lose much either!).  It’s been a great day – and am grateful for all the birthday wishes from family and friends.

 

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An overrated day….

Happy Valentine’s Day – the day that the flower shops jack up their prices of flowers and for the restaurants to have “special dinner prices” for couples.

 

Perhaps I am slightly jaded, being a divorced woman who has been single for a long time now and really has no desire to be in another relationship (at least not for a while), but I really think this is one of the most overrated days of the year.

 

Cards, flowers, expensive gifts – why do couples wait for one particular day of the year to celebrate their love?  Shouldn’t they do this every day of the year?  Is love not special enough to celebrate all year-long?  Why not just pick a day each month to celebrate the love you have?

 

Once a month – go out for a special dinner.  Buy flowers for your mate (male or woman!).  Bring home chocolate (or something special that they like).  Surprise your mate with a romantic night – it does not need to wait for February 14!!

 

Make your love special and show them how much you care every single day!!

 

 

What did you want to be when you grew up?

What did you want to be when you grew up?  Did you accomplish that dream?  Or are you still waiting to grow up ??  I know some of us feel we have yet to grow up – me included some days!!

 

When I was a young girl, I wanted to be a teacher.  In high school, I aspired to be a lawyer.  I think I would have been a good lawyer if I had pursued that, but after working for lawyers for 30 years, I no longer care to ever pursue that long ago dream!!

 

Some of us have big dreams and some of us just want to have a career and make enough money to buy a house, have a family and retire one day.

 

As I have approached my grown up years (I would say that would be about 60 the rate I am going haha), I think I finally have an idea of what I want to be.  While I do love teaching overseas, and I hope to pursue it again in a couple of years, there is a desire to pursue writing full time.  The venue for my writing is still something I am deciding, but I know that if I pursue this and research it like I did with the teaching, I will be successful.  It’s not just research and patience that brings success, it is also attitude.  I have a positive and strong attitude and I know I can do it.

 

So I ask the question again – what do you want to be when you grow up?  Are you happy with what you ended up doing in your life?

 

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Walking the beat of my own drum

I walk to the beat of my own drum.  I have been doing this for a few years, but I will admit, there have been many times that I have followed the crowd.

 

Following the crowd during school seems to be something most of us do.  But who are we following anyway?  The popular kids?  The sports kids?  Have you ever thought about that?

 

Was there someone in your life that you wanted to be like?  That you wanted to be?  I know for me that there were a few people I wanted to be like. Especially in high school.  I wanted to be confident and outgoing, like so many of my friends were.  But I was shy and just hung back, trying to gain the courage to speak up.  Things changed in college and later on in my life, after my divorce.  But if there was anything that I could have changed, it would be to be more confident in myself.  To be stronger and self-assured.

 

Do I regret the way things worked out in my life?  No.  I believe that everything that has happened in my life has happened when it needed to and when the time was right.

 

Do I follow the beat of my own drum now?  Absolutely!!  Would I follow the crowd now?  Unless that crowd was heading to South Africa or Australia or somewhere really cool – then maybe in that case.  But no – I would not follow the crowd now.

 

Follow the crowd or walk to the beat of your own drum.  You choose.  What will you do?